and then share them with other people. Right before the horses started jumping, Betty and Pat danced the South Carolina shag to a favorite song playing over the loud speaker. It was pretty obvious that they had danced together for a long time. Pat brought light and energy into every occasion. My husband Randy and I always thought he was the coolest member of our extended family. My most precious memory of Pat occurred 45 years ago. Randy and I were on our honeymoon in Charleston. Pat happened to be there on business and invited us to an incredible restaurant for dinner. Several of his sales colleagues came along and paid for our meal (on their expense accounts, no doubt). Who would do that random act of kindness? T. Pat Ballard knew we could never have afforded it on our own. What a wonderful guy and family man we've lost.